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Introduction: The Absorption That Stopped Coming
Once, you could get absorbed, forgetting the time. Before you knew it, dawn had broken. You did not notice your hunger. All the information outside thinned, and only what was before you grew vivid. But ever since you made it your work, that absorption stopped coming. You are doing the same thing, and your concentration will not hold. Has my concentration declined? — you grow anxious.
Plenty has been written on how to get absorbed. What this article places is the question one step before it: why you lose the ability to get absorbed in what you loved, and whether it is a problem of concentration.
Let me give the conclusion first. You lost the ability to get absorbed not because your concentration declined. It is that the conditions for absorption — flow — to arise came to be set from outside when you turned what you love into work.
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The Three Conditions for Absorption to Arise
The psychologist Csikszentmihalyi called the state of being completely immersed in an activity, the sense of time vanishing, the activity itself becoming joy, “flow” [Csikszentmihalyi, 1990]. It is close to what is called being in the zone. That experience of being absorbed, forgetting the time, was exactly this flow.
Csikszentmihalyi set out the conditions for flow to arise.
- The balance of challenge and ability: being in a challenge neither too hard nor too easy, one that tests your ability.
- A clear goal and immediate feedback: what you are trying to achieve is clear, and the result of your action is known at once.
- Autonomous control: the sense that the initiative in the activity is yours — the sense I chose to be here.
Back when you were absorbed in what you love, all three of these were met from your own interior. You set the challenge by your own standard, held clearly the form you aimed at, and the initiative in the activity was yours.
Make It Work, and the Three Conditions Move Outside
Turn what you love into work and these three conditions are systematically obstructed.
With the client’s demands entering, the balance of challenge and ability is set from outside. Not the challenge you set by your own standard, but the other party’s conditions decide the content of the challenge. A clear goal, too, is set from outside. And autonomous control is lost the more the external requirements grow. The three conditions of flow pass, one by one, into external hands by making it work.
When flow becomes hard to arise, the experience the activity itself is joy declines. What increases instead is the experience carrying it out as an obligation. For the same activity, in flow it is experienced as joy, out of flow as obligation. When you feel what I love has vanished, what is actually happening may be that flow has stopped arising. Your valuation of the activity — whether you love it — has not changed, while the quality of experience during the activity has. That change is what we feel as what I love has vanished.
▸ How this change in the quality of experience happens as a fall of motivation is treated in why you lose your drive once what you love becomes work.
The Key to Reclaiming Absorption Is Autonomous Control
If so, the key to reclaiming absorption is neither training concentration nor learning techniques of concentration. It is to reclaim the three conditions of flow — above all autonomous control — onto your own side.
Research in self-determination theory points the same way [Deci & Ryan, 1985]. Even with external reward, if the sense I am choosing is kept, intrinsic motivation is unlikely to fall. Conversely, even without reward, if the sense I am being made to is present, motivation falls. What is decisive is not whether external reward exists but whether autonomy is kept.
So to reclaim absorption you need a structure in which you can decide what to make, whom to deliver to, for what you make it — a structure in which the initiative in the activity is on your side. Within that structure, the three conditions of flow are met from within, and absorption arrives naturally, without your straining to concentrate.
Conclusion: See Absorption as a Problem of Structure, Not Concentration
You lost the ability to get absorbed not because your concentration declined but because the three conditions for flow to arise — above all autonomous control — moved outside when you turned what you love into work.
What is needed is neither stronger concentration nor a better technique of concentration. It is to review absorption not as a problem of individual ability but as a problem of the structure the activity is loaded onto. Within a structure where the initiative in the activity is on your side, absorption can be reclaimed. Receive the overall blueprint as your next step. How this destruction of flow works across turning what you love into work as a whole is gathered in why passion disappears when you turn what you love into work.
References
Academic papers and theory
- Csikszentmihalyi, M. Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience (1990) Harper & Row
- Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. Intrinsic Motivation and Self-Determination in Human Behavior (1985) Plenum Press
