Why Independence Left You Less Free Than Being Employed

Introduction: You Went Independent for Freedom — So Why Are You Less Free Than as an Employee?

A few years into working for yourself, you notice something strange. No boss. No commute. In principle, every hour of the day is yours to allocate. And yet the actual day is busier than it ever was inside a company, with less margin, and even the hours you are supposedly resting are colonized by a low-grade anxiety about work.

You know, rationally, that you should reduce the low-margin work and build your own product. And yet you keep filling the calendar with cheap one-off projects, because they deliver a small, immediate hit of relief. Days after resolving to “start publishing today,” you are back inside the pile of client work. When you step away on a weekend, what arrives is not release but guilt — so you open the inbox anyway.

Each time you meet this sense of “I want to change and cannot,” you look for the cause inside yourself. “I wasn’t cut out for this.” “My will is too weak.” “This is exactly why I stay half-finished.”

That self-diagnosis is a category error. You are pulled back to the old way of working not because your will is weak, but because you are still carrying the self-image of a worker who sells time — and merely stacking more activity on top of it. Leave the foundation in place and pile on cargo, and the foundation only pulls you back harder. This is not a defect of character. It is the normal operation of a mechanism built into your brain: homeostasis.

This article strips out the motivational language and dissects, from cognitive science, why independent operators get dragged back toward work they never chose. It names why both standard prescriptions — “force it with willpower” and “picture your successful self” — dig the very same hole, and it identifies the single point at which the force that pulls you back turns into the force that carries you forward.

Chapter 1: “You Are Not Weak” — Homeostasis Defends a Set Point, Not Your Character

First, name the pull-back precisely. Homeostasis is the powerful restoring force that keeps your internal state within a narrow band regardless of how much the outside changes. In applied mathematics it is defined rigorously as “a regulatory mechanism that keeps a specific variable near its set point even as other variables fluctuate” (Duncan, Antoneli & Best, 2023). This is not a metaphor. It is a mechanism expressible in differential equations, governing input-output networks in living systems.

The clearest example is body temperature. Stand outside underdressed in freezing weather and your brain constricts blood vessels and makes your muscles shiver to generate heat, pulling your temperature back to its baseline. In extreme heat it floods the sweat glands to cool you back down. Homeostasis makes no moral judgment. It simply enforces the set point: rapid change reads as a threat to survival, so return to the familiar state by any means available.

The decisive finding of cognitive science is that this restoring force acts not only on the body but on the states of your information space — income, working style, relationships, self-image. Medical literature confirms that “any stimulus, physical or psychological, that disrupts homeostasis triggers a stress response” (Chu, Marwaha & Sanvictores, 2019). What behavioral economics calls status quo bias — the stubborn pull to remain exactly as you are — is this same restoring force showing up at the moment of a decision.

This defense of the set point is visible outside the body as well. The person who crash-diets to a sudden low weight and returns, months later, heavier than before. The lottery winner who drifts back to a prior financial state within a few years. The further you depart from the set point, the harder the return — remember that symmetry. What is happening to you after going independent is the same phenomenon. The more you try to leave the set point of “hand over time, receive payment” that employment burned in, the harder that set point pulls you back.

Neuroscientist Redish and colleagues identified ten structural vulnerabilities in the brain’s decision-making system; the first two are “deviation from the set point” and “change of the set point itself” (Redish, Jensen & Johnson, 2008). Moving off the current set point is registered, neurologically, as a fault to be corrected — built into the architecture, not a habit you picked up.

Here is the point that changes everything. Homeostasis is not defending your character. It is defending the set point you currently hold without noticing — the self-image of what kind of being you are and where you are supposed to be. If so, “I get pulled back because my will is weak” mislocates the cause by an entire layer. You are pulled back not by a shortage of surface energy, but because the set point itself is frozen in an old configuration. Train the surface all you like: while the set point reads “a worker who sells time,” homeostasis will quietly return you there, again and again.

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Chapter 2: Both Standard Prescriptions Dig the Same Hole

The prescriptions an independent operator reaches for, when the pull-back sets in, fall into two kinds. Both carry the same structural error.

Prescription 1: “Force it with willpower” — a guaranteed defeat

The first is “just discipline yourself harder.” Sharpen the will to move forward and use it to counter the pull-back. But this strategy is structurally lost from the start. Human willpower is a finite resource — like a phone battery, highest at waking, depleted by every act of judgment and self-restraint. Homeostasis, by contrast, runs like the heartbeat: twenty-four hours a day, through your sleep, consuming nothing, restoring without pause.

A finite resource against an inexhaustible restoring force. You can win for a few days at most; over any longer contest, homeostasis wins without exception. Research on behavior change reaches the same conclusion. An analysis integrating the behavioral and organizational change literatures on the foundation of self-determination theory finds that motivation supplied purely from outside rarely produces lasting change, and that durable change requires updating the person’s own internal motivation and internal representations — their self-image and their read of the present (Kamarova, Gagné & Holtrop, 2024).

Prescription 2: “Picture your successful self” — the subtler trap

Once willpower fails, the next prescription is this: “Make the brain hallucinate. Repeat to yourself that the version of you earning $10,000 a month is the real you, and write that successful state in as your new set point. Then homeostasis will run in reverse and carry you there automatically.”

At first glance it looks like a clever move that follows Chapter 1’s logic — you are rewriting the set point, so the direction must be right. But it hides a fatal problem. To overwrite “$10,000” onto your own brain from the outside is to substitute your own standard of value with one handed to you. It is not a future you wanted from within; it is the ruler of the very labor market you are trying to escape — “how much did you earn,” a one-dimensional number — carried straight back in.

And homeostasis cannot hold the number. The repeated, overwritten “$10,000 self” is a borrowed set point your depths never accepted as real; a set point your core has quietly flagged as “not what I actually wanted” is not something homeostasis defends in earnest. So the moment you ease off, you snap back to the old set point as if nothing had happened. Worse: this prescription is not merely ineffective. Each relapse — “I pictured it so hard, and still I went back” — carves a deeper layer of self-blame, eroding the very estimate you hold of yourself.

So the two prescriptions look opposite and are identical in the one respect that matters: both are re-driving the set point of “a worker who sells time.” One exhausts itself trying to force the move; the other overwrites a number and is rejected by the depths. As long as the hole is the same, no change in how you dig gets you out. You keep returning to the same place.

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Chapter 3: What Homeostasis Defends Is Not the Number — It Is the Abstraction of Your Self-Image

What, then, do both prescriptions fail to see? That a set point has not only a height but an abstraction — a separate axis entirely.

“$2,000” and “$10,000” are different marks on the same ruler. The ruler itself is still “how much do I earn per unit of time” — the one-dimensional coordinate of a laborer. Slide the mark from 2 to 10 and the axis you are standing on has not moved a millimeter. That is the root reason rewriting the number cannot stop the pull-back.

To actually rewrite the set point is not to raise the mark but to re-lay the axis itself onto a higher abstraction. A high-abstraction self-image is, for example, not “how much do I earn per hour” but “which decision rights over my own business do I hold in my own hands.” The former binds you to a single number; the latter governs countless decisions — whom to work with, what to build, how to deliver — under one principle. The higher the abstraction, the fewer the guiding rules you need to steer many situations, and daily action converges, on its own, toward one direction.

Make it concrete. Take the same act of “writing one article.” On the time-selling axis, writing an article means “produce a deliverable, convert it to payment,” bound by rate and deadline. On the structure-owning axis, the same article becomes “an asset that compounds, and brings people back to you again and again.” The visible action is identical, yet the former depletes you the more you write, while the latter thickens your footing the more you write. If you are depleting yourself after going independent, the problem is not that you act too little. It is that the axis your action rides on has not been updated since your employee days.

Once the axis is genuinely re-laid, homeostasis begins — for the first time — to defend the new set point in earnest. Because “I hold the decision rights over my own business” is not a number handed from outside, but something you wanted from within, something that is yours. Homeostasis will not defend a borrowed number, but a self-image that has truly become yours, it defends with the same inexhaustible restoring force.

One thing must be made explicit here. If “hold the decision rights” becomes a new incantation you repeat, it is no different from chanting “$10,000” — merely one more borrowed mark added to the pile. Re-laying the axis is not overwriting an answer someone handed you; it is the work of checking, against your own interior, what it is you actually want to hold. The “ownership of structure” offered here is one direction for asking that question — not a conclusion for you to swallow.

This changes the question you should be asking at the root. The question is not “how do I overpower the force that pulls me back.” It is: “Is my set point still sitting on the laborer’s axis?” That is the first thing an independent operator, pulled back into a lack of freedom, must look at directly.

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Chapter 4: What Music Taught Me — Passion Alone Cannot Clear a Structural Wall

Let me make this axis concrete from my own first-hand experience. The origin of my career was music — the opposite pole from business. In 2011, the year of the earthquake, I graduated from a music vocational school and entered the world as a “self-proclaimed composer”: no steady job, living off the occasional production request, thoroughly unstable. What drove me was a pure and reckless craving for freedom — “I will do nothing but what I love,” “I refuse to be a cog in an organization.”

But when I looked across the industry, what I saw was creators of overwhelming talent handing their intellectual work to companies for astonishingly low pay, worked to exhaustion day and night. They held onto the single consolation of “doing what I love,” selling their own labor and time to the very limit. One friend, “to keep making music,” took a job he had no interest in and was swallowed by the daily grind. When I watched the light go out of the eyes of someone who had shone so brightly as a student, I was chilled.

“Is this really the freedom I was after?”

Belonging to no organization did free me from a superior’s orders and the commute. But the price was the loss of every safety net for tomorrow’s living, and that drove me into the least free state of all: “for money, I have to take work I do not want, and take it cheaply.” My set point in those years was exactly “a creative laborer who sells time.” However hard I craved freedom, I could only crawl along that axis.

The lesson was brutal: passion and talent alone cannot clear the structural mechanics of capitalism. True freedom rests only on a footing of economic self-reliance. Facing that reality squarely was the first turning point at which I re-laid the axis itself — from “a person who devotes time to what he loves” to “a person who owns the structure of his business.” I did not abandon the dream. I decided to build, first, the footing that would let me keep protecting it.

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Chapter 5: When the Force That Pulls You Back Begins to Pull You Forward

What happens inside the brain once the axis is re-laid?

Once the new set point — “a self-image that holds the decision rights over my own business” — genuinely settles as yours, a sharp mismatch opens between your reality (still lingering in the old way of working) and the set point the brain now reads as correct. That mismatch is precisely the trigger that fires homeostasis. But this time the direction is not backward. The same restoring force begins to work in the direction that lifts you toward the new set point. “The real me is supposed to own the structure of his business, yet the actual me is still selling time by the hour. This state is abnormal — restore me to the correct set point.” Homeostasis now tries to restore you toward the future.

In this state you no longer need willpower to police yourself. The knowledge you need starts flying into view on its own; “if I don’t do this piece of work today, something feels off” wells up with the naturalness of brushing your teeth. From the outside it may look like relentless drive; from the inside it is simply the ordinary work of bringing reality closer to the correct self-image, with no sense of forcing yourself outward.

The key is self-efficacy — your own estimate of your ability to reach your own goals. After re-laying the axis, what you must maintain is not the will to keep beating yourself onward, but this self-efficacy, held high. With a correct set point and high self-efficacy, the rest of the convergence is carried by homeostasis. The finding that change does not take root under external coercion, and that durable change is produced by the person’s own internal motivation and the updating of the self-image (Kamarova et al., 2024), points to exactly this inversion.

So how do you tell whether your own axis is still the old one? The clue is where you seek relief. When your calendar fills with familiar, low-margin work and you feel a small ease — that ease is the signal that your set point still sits on the “worker who sells time” axis. Conversely, becoming restless as you reach for the work of building your own asset is not a sign of failure; it is evidence that the distance from the set point has widened. Treat the moment of being pulled back not as something to condemn, but as something to observe. Write down, one by one, “what did I just try to find relief in,” and the outline of the old axis that binds you comes into focus with surprising clarity. Making it visible is the first step of re-laying it.

Put another way: the true opponent you must face is not a formidable competitor or a difficult client. It is the axis fixed in your own unconscious — “a worker who sells time,” left un-updated. That, and that alone, is the single pillar that has been pulling you back into a lack of freedom.

One note: the moment you step toward this new set point, an unidentifiable anxiety will come for you without fail. The structure of that anxiety, and the concrete cognitive procedure for reading it as anticipation instead, are the subject of the next article.

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Summary: You Are Not Rewriting a Number — You Are Rewriting an Axis

• “I went independent and I am less free than as an employee” is not weak will or missing talent. It is homeostasis defending an old “worker who sells time” self-image — functioning perfectly normally. There is no reason for self-blame.
• Distrust the prescription “picture your successful self and overwrite it.” Overwriting a number from outside merely imports the ruler of the labor market you are escaping, and your depths reject it. What must be rewritten is not the mark on the ruler, but the axis itself.
• Both standard prescriptions — forcing it with willpower, and visualizing a number — are re-driving the same “time-selling worker” set point.
• What homeostasis defends is the abstraction of the self-image, not the figure. Raise the axis from “how much do I earn per hour” to “which decision rights over my business do I hold.”
• Being pulled back is not your enemy. It is an accurate signal that your set point still sits on a borrowed axis. Read the signal, take the axis back into your own hands, and — for the first time — you can keep moving forward without depleting yourself.

References

• William Duncan, Fernando Antoneli, Janet Best (2023). Homeostasis Patterns. arXiv. https://arxiv.org/abs/2306.15145
• Brianna Chu, Komal Marwaha, Terrence Sanvictores (2019). Physiology, Stress Reaction. StatPearls. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK541120/
• A. David Redish, Steve Jensen, Adam Johnson (2008). A unified framework for addiction: Vulnerabilities in the decision process. Behavioral and Brain Sciences. https://doi.org/10.1017/s0140525x0800472x
• S. Kamarova, Marylène Gagné, D. Holtrop (2024). Integrating behavior and organizational change literatures to uncover crucial psychological mechanisms underlying the adoption and maintenance of organizational change. Journal of Organizational Behavior. https://doi.org/10.1002/job.2832