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Introduction: The Relief Is Genuine
HSP — Highly Sensitive Person — is now widely known as a term for someone easily worn down in crowds, deeply affected by the emotions of others, tired by noticing fine detail. When the word gave a name to reactions that had long gone unexplained, many people felt a weight lift: so that was what it was. That relief is genuine.
Good ways of living with HSP have already been discussed at length. What this article places is the question one step before them: where the two faces of the name divide — the one that grants relief, and the one that adds the unfreedom of so I cannot.
Let one thing be explicit at the outset. This article does not in the slightest discourage anyone carrying difficulties of mind or body from consulting a professional and reaching the support or treatment they need. What is discussed is a separate layer: the stance, within everyday self-perception, of identifying yourself wholly with a ready-made name.
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When Naming Rescues, and When It Confines
One and the same name performs two entirely different functions. The two need separating.
The first is the loosening of excessive self-blame. Someone who has carried every failure as evidence that their own conduct was insufficient learns that it was not their fault. The direction of blame moves from their character toward a state or a set of conditions. That relief is legitimate, and it can open the entrance to necessary accommodations and support. There is no reason to deny naming in this mode.
The second is the fixing of a self-image and the sealing off of change. I am HSP, so I cannot do this. This is my temperament, so this is the life I will have. Here naming has ceased to be a rescue and become grounds for resignation. The line between them is clear. Naming that stops you blaming your past self is a rescue; naming that makes you accept resignation about your future self is a confinement. Rescue and confinement run in opposite directions in time.
Life Translated Into Diagnostic Categories
Behind the force of the explanation because I am HSP lies a current that has been turning society over the past century or so.
The medical sociologist Peter Conrad captured it with the word medicalisation [Conrad, 2007]: a current in which matters once received as part of life, a facet of character, or the trouble of a period in a life are given specialist names and shifted into the category of things to be managed. Great care is needed here. This analysis is emphatically not a denial of medicine itself, or of legitimate diagnosis and treatment. What is in question is not the value of medicine but a separate matter — how far the range of describing yourself in ready-made names extends, and what that does to self-understanding.
As the translation advances, we lose, little by little, the capacity to describe our experience in our own raw words. Lately I have not felt like seeing people is explained by the name of a label, until we can no longer describe ourselves except through that name. Someone who has come to describe themselves in ready-made names becomes unable to grasp even what they are feeling without the framework that supplied the name.
▸ How this classification becomes, without your noticing, a device for keeping watch on yourself is treated in why self-analysis never ends.
When “Because I Am HSP” Becomes a Story of Impossibility
Take the name on as an assertion about being, identify with it, and it begins to feel like an unchangeable characteristic settled at birth.
The psychologist Carol Dweck showed that behaviour differs greatly according to whether people take their own characteristics to be fixed at birth and unchangeable or alterable through engagement [Dweck, 2000]. Those holding the former view receive difficulty as evidence of their own limits and avoid challenges. The sentence I am HSP, so I cannot do this lends that view the endorsement of an outside authority. Something never yet attempted is placed outside the self on the strength of a single name. Untried, it does not develop; undeveloped, the result I could not after all remains — which in turn underwrites because I am HSP.
What is being denied here is neither knowing your own tendencies nor declining to force yourself. Genuine aptitude and its absence become visible only on the far side of actually engaging, over time. The problem is only the drawing of that line too early — settling the matter with a single word before anything has been tried.
Conclusion: Return the Name to a Changeable Observation
The name HSP becomes, at times, a rescue that loosens self-blame, and at times a story of impossibility — so I cannot. What divides them is whether the name is used to stop blaming the past or taken on to give up on the future; and whether it is gripped as an assertion about being or rested on the palm as a changeable observation.
What is required is not a more accurate measurement of your characteristics. It is returning I am HSP, an assertion, to I currently tend to be sensitive to this kind of stimulus, an observation. The tendency indicated is the same, and the second contains within the sentence, from the outset, that the tendency may one day move. Let this be said once more: if you are carrying difficulties of mind, do not let this article give you pause about seeking care or support. What deserves doubt is the ready-made name you attach to yourself casually — not the diagnosis a professional offers under their responsibility. Receive the overall design as your next step. How identification with a label operates across self-understanding as a whole is set out in are personality tests accurate.
References
Academic papers and theory
- Conrad, P. The Medicalization of Society: On the Transformation of Human Conditions into Treatable Disorders (2007) Johns Hopkins University Press
- Dweck, C. S. Self-Theories: Their Role in Motivation, Personality, and Development (2000) Psychology Press
