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Introduction: The Ideal Image Is Vivid and Nothing Changes
There is a person you want to become. You picture the ideal figure, hold the state in vivid detail, and concentrate on I am already this. That is what manifestation teaches. And yet however much is pictured, the action does not continue, and at some point you notice you are back where you started. The ideal image is vivid, and somehow you have not changed.
Material on the technique of picturing an ideal more vividly is plentiful. What this article treats is the ground beneath it: why picturing the person you want to be does not by itself produce change, and what actually changes a person.
Here is the conclusion first. The key to change lies not in what you obtain but in who you become. And that self-image is built reliably not by concentrated wishing but by the accumulation of small actions. The order in which people picture the person they want to be needs reversing.
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Before Behaviour Changes, a Self-Image Is Required
When we want to change something, we generally try to change the behaviour. Rise early, take exercise. But an attempt to change behaviour alone rarely lasts, because the behaviour does not match the self-image — the sense of who one is.
Holding the self-image I am a lazy person while trying to change only the behaviour of rising early produces a discrepancy between the behaviour and the image. And a person is eventually pulled back toward the image. We tend to act consistently with the self-image we believe in. Where an image of this is the sort of person I am exists, choices matching that image are made unconsciously. So changing the root — the self-image — alters behaviour across a far wider range, and with far less force, than changing behaviours one at a time by will. Change the root and the branches follow of themselves.
Manifestation misjudges this point. What it teaches people to picture is the desired outcome — money, success, a partner. It focuses, that is, on the result obtained. But rather than picturing myself having obtained money, what needs to change is the self-image itself: what sort of person am I. For someone who wants to be healthy, picturing the outcome of a slimmer me and holding the self-image I am someone who takes care of my body differ entirely in their effect on daily choices. The first ends on arrival and collapses on non-arrival. The second becomes a root reaching every daily choice, since what a person who takes care of their body eats and how they move follows of itself.
How This Differs From Chanting “I Am a Success”
Chanting I am a success appears, at first glance, to be an attempt at changing a self-image. But it is an attempt to concentrate into place a script borrowed from outside, carrying no felt reality. An instruction that runs against what is felt generates pushback, and spins without traction.
A change of self-image is not something concentrated into place. It is the felt sense — I am the sort of person who does this — growing little by little through an accumulation of small choices. Chanting and growing through action are entirely different things.
▸ The difference between words as instruction and words carrying felt reality is dissected in do affirmations work.
Self-Efficacy Grows From Small Action
What underwrites a self-image is self-efficacy. The concept, advanced by the psychologist Albert Bandura, refers to a person’s confidence in their own capacity to carry out the actions that attain a goal [Bandura, 1977]. Those high in efficacy persist in the face of difficulty and accomplish more as a result.
How, then, does efficacy grow? Bandura identified several sources, and the most powerful among them is the experience of having actually attempted something oneself and managed it. Act for yourself, however small the act, and take hold of the result. This accumulation of successes is the most reliable foundation of efficacy. The weakest source, conversely, is merely picturing in the head that one can. Imagination unaccompanied by action grows efficacy hardly at all.
Here is the decisive opposition with manifestation. Manifestation teaches people to picture, in vivid detail, a self that has succeeded. This stakes everything on the weakest of the sources that build efficacy. And, as seen earlier, feeling that it has been done removes the motive to act. Manifestation relies on the weakest available means of building efficacy while, in effect, holding the strongest means — small action — at a distance.
Action and Self-Image Grow in a Spiral
A fourth path runs the other way. Rather than picturing a large outcome in search of a sense of traction, actually attempt something very small. And take hold of one fact of having managed it. That small fact makes the sense of I can do this fractionally more certain. Then attempt something slightly larger. And manage that too.
Traction gained by concentration is fragile, having no backing in reality, and collapses easily on contact with a reality where nothing has arrived. Traction gained through small action is supported by the fact of having actually done it, and does not collapse readily. The memory I did this cannot be taken by anyone, or by any turn of reality. And accumulating facts of having managed something small underwrites the self-image I am the sort of person who can do this. Action underwrites the self-image, and the underwritten self-image produces the next action. Self-image and behaviour are not a matter of completing one before the other; they grow each other in a spiral.
Conclusion: Stop Concentrating and Start Moving Small
That picturing the person you want to be produces no change was never a shortage of imagination on your part. The key to change lies not in the result obtained but in who you become, and that self-image is underwritten not by concentration but by small action. Imagination is the weakest source of efficacy, and action is the strongest.
So the way to become the person you want to be is not to concentrate on the ideal image more vividly. It is to stop concentrating and start moving small. Accumulating a single small I managed it will change you more reliably than any vivid imagining. Receive the overall design as your next step. How this question of self-image and efficacy operates across manifestation as a whole is set out in what the law of attraction actually is.
References
Academic papers and theory
- Bandura, A. “Self-Efficacy: Toward a Unifying Theory of Behavioral Change” (1977) Psychological Review, 84(2)
- Bandura, A. Self-Efficacy: The Exercise of Control (1997) W. H. Freeman
- Oettingen, G. Rethinking Positive Thinking: Inside the New Science of Motivation (2014) Current
