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Introduction: The Heaviness a Pep Talk Cannot Lift
The thing you started because you loved it, and now you have no drive for it. Once your hands moved of their own accord if you left them alone; now getting started is heavy. It is something I love, so having no drive is strange; this is a problem of my own feelings — so you try to be positive. You try to enjoy it. But however much you tell yourself this is something I love, the heaviness in your body does not lift.
Plenty has been written on how to summon motivation. What this article treats is the ground beneath it: why you lose your drive for what you once loved, and why the power of will cannot recover it.
Let me give the conclusion first. You have no drive not because your will is weak. When external reward, evaluation, or obligation is added to an activity you once loved, motivation for that activity is falling, unconsciously. This is not a problem the will can control.
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When Reward Is Added to Something You Originally Loved
In psychology there is a phenomenon called the undermining effect: when external reward or external control is added to an activity you were originally doing from intrinsic motivation — doing it because you yourself want to — intrinsic motivation for that activity falls.
An experiment by the psychologist Lepper and colleagues showed this vividly [Lepper, Greene & Nisbett, 1973]. What is worth noting is that the problem is not that a reward exists but the cognition that I am acting for the reward. When the cognition I do this because I love it and the cognition I do this for the reward arise at the same time, the two compete. And the more the external requirements grow, the stronger the cognition this is for the reward, this is work, and the more the cognition I do this because I love it recedes.
The process of turning what you love into work arranges exactly these conditions. Meeting requests, keeping deadlines, matching market demand — each is legitimate and necessary as work. But as they are added, the origin I make it because I want to hear it shifts, little by little, toward the origin I make it because the other party wants it.
Why “Trying to Enjoy It” Does Not Work
Here is what many people try: changing their feelings. Think positive. Enjoy it. Focus on the fact that you are doing what you love. And yet this does not work on the loss of passion.
The reason is simple. The thought I am doing what I love is a conscious cognition, while the undermining effect happens as an unconscious change of motivation. Your conscious mind may say I love this, but if the structure of motivation has changed, the energy toward action does not. If anything, a double discomfort piles up — I am trying to enjoy it and cannot.
This is not weakness of will. It is that the human cognitive system is built to judge the purpose of an activity unconsciously and to allocate motivation on the basis of that judgment. So there is no need to blame yourself with if I held stronger feelings it would come back. What to blame is not the weak self but the structure the activity is loaded onto, which changed the structure of motivation.
▸ This argument — that you fail to keep it up not because your will is weak — is also treated in failing to stick with things is not weakness of will.
What You Love Has Not Vanished — the Motivation Is Merely Covered
Let me draw an important distinction here. When you have no drive, many people conclude I no longer love it. But that is not accurate.
The emotion I love this and the motivation toward action born from that love are different things. The emotion of loving may not have vanished. Even now, if its object enters your sight, your heart moves. It is only that the motivation running from that love toward action is covered by external control. Here is the true form of the contradictory feeling I love it, yet I don’t want to do it. Your valuation — whether you love it — has not changed, while the experience of drawing joy from that love is obstructed by external control.
If so, what is needed is neither let me love it more strongly nor giving up with I must not really love it any more. It is to reduce what covers the motion from love to action — the external control. And that does not change with an attitude of mind. It changes only by changing the structure the activity is loaded onto.
Conclusion: See the Problem of Drive as a Problem of Structure
You have no drive for what you once loved because external reward and evaluation eroded intrinsic motivation unconsciously. And you cannot recover it by will because the problem lies not in feelings but in the structure of motivation.
What is needed is neither a stronger will nor a more positive mindset. It is to review the problem of drive not as a problem of the individual’s feelings but as a problem of the structure the activity is loaded onto. When the external control that covers the motion from love to action is reduced, the sense of I want to returns to the surface of its own accord. Receive the overall blueprint as your next step. How this erosion works across turning what you love into work as a whole is gathered in why passion disappears when you turn what you love into work.
References
Academic papers and theory
- Lepper, M. R., Greene, D., & Nisbett, R. E. “Undermining Children’s Intrinsic Interest with Extrinsic Reward” (1973) Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 28(1)
- Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. Intrinsic Motivation and Self-Determination in Human Behavior (1985) Plenum Press
