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Introduction: The Guilt That Follows Rest
On the Sunday afternoon you decided to rest, you notice you have opened your email. When work finishes earlier than planned, you cram other work into the freed-up time. Those around you worry that you are overworking, and you think so too. Even so, in the hours when you are doing nothing, a restless guilt trails you. And most people arrive at the same conclusion: my will is weak, and I cannot rest.
Plenty of people are looking for a way to cure being a workaholic. What this article places is the question one step before it: is not being able to stop overworking the weakness of your will — or the working of something else that drives you from within?
Let me give the conclusion first. Not being able to rest is not a matter of will. It is because the value that to work, to discipline oneself, is a virtue is written deep inside you. And that value may not exist for your own sake.
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“Diligence Is a Virtue” Was Written In From Outside
Look first at where that guilt comes from. Becoming restless in the hours you do nothing is not an inborn trait. It is the working of a value internalised from outside over a long stretch of time.
The sociologist Max Weber argued that a value internalising diligence and strict self-discipline as a moral duty became the spiritual foundation of modern society [Weber, 1905] (this drawing of the causation faces objections from present-day historians, and is best received as one influential reading). Diligence, once a religious duty, shed its religious garb with time and turned into a common sense as ordinary as air: to work is good, to rest is shameful. The guilt you feel when you rest is not your personal defect but the sediment this long history has left inside you.
Internalised Diligence Makes Surveillance Unnecessary
Here lies an overlooked function of this value: once the norm diligence is a virtue is internalised, people come to drive themselves without anyone watching from outside.
Consider it. If someone wished to make workers labour long, watching each one to make them work would cost enormous effort and money. But plant in each person, in advance, the value that to work is good, to rest is shameful, and no surveillance is needed. People work overtime unbidden, study on their days off unprompted, and drive themselves where no one is watching. No mechanism of management is cheaper, or more efficient, than this. Your inner voice of I must work more, looking like a guardian who protects you, in fact works as the cheapest management device there is for the side that profits from your voluntary exhaustion.
▸ How this sense of driving yourself appears within relationships with people is treated in the structure of over-adaptation that thins you out.
The Trap of “More Work Will Solve It”
As long as we are under this value, we try to solve every problem by the volume of work. Though we are tired, we think, I am tired because my way of working is still not enough.
This is a strange loop. It seeks the cause of exhaustion not in a shortage of rest but in a shortage of work. And so it keeps attributing the cause of the problem not to structure but always to the inside of the self — to because I am still not enough. As long as the direction of this attribution does not change, the answer always arrives at work more, and the fatigue deepens further. You cannot break out not because your will is weak, but because the very ruler that solves the problem has been graduated so as to yield no answer other than work more.
The Exit Is Not a Resolve to Stop Working
Where, then, is the exit? Not in firmly resolving to stop overworking. Resolve alone lets the guilt return at once, because as long as the income that supports your life is bound tightly to your labour, the voice of I must work is reproduced again and again.
What is needed is to move two directions at once. One is to draw the ruler of what counts as important back from outside norms into your own hands. The other is to step, little by little, out of the structure in which income is bound one-to-one to your working hours. The more you hold a mechanism that keeps working as it accumulates — a stock-type foundation — the more the voice of I must work loses its necessity.
Let one thing be clear. This is not a denial of working intently. Time poured into something deeply is, in itself, a rich thing. What is cut is not the action but the norm that makes you feel resting is shameful and calls your voluntary exhaustion a virtue. To pour yourself in by your own ruler, and to have your hands unable to stop under guilt, are — seen from outside the same work — altogether different things.
Conclusion: Look at Where the Driving Voice Comes From
Not being able to stop overworking is not because your will is weak, but because the norm diligence is a virtue is internalised, and that norm drives you so efficiently it makes outside surveillance unnecessary. So the exit lies neither in a stronger resolve nor in cleverer time management.
What is needed is to change the question. Not how can I cure my overworking but who wrote in this guilt, and whose interest does my exhaustion serve? The whole picture is gathered in why “I have to do it perfectly” never goes quiet. From looking at the same fatigue not as a defect to be fixed but as a driving structure, the exit begins to come into view.
References
Academic papers and theory
- Weber, M. Die protestantische Ethik und der Geist des Kapitalismus (1905)
- Marx, K. Das Kapital, Band I (1867) Verlag von Otto Meissner
- Uno, K. Principles of Political Economy (1964) Iwanami Shoten
